Develop a Network of Support consisting of family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, clergy, …
Contact a Domestic Violence Program as you navigate your way from victim to survivor. Most programs offer much more than emergency shelter, so give them call. MSCFV can be reached 24/7/365 at 1-800-927-HOPE (4673)
You must allow yourself to grieve the loss of your relationship. Remember, it is a loss. Don’t beat yourself up for still having feelings for your abuser. Love doesn’t die overnight and the head and heart need time to come into alignment so you can make sense of what has happened.
Journal your thoughts and feelings about the abuse and how it made you feel. Make sure you keep your journal in a safe space.
Write a letter to your abuser, telling them how the abuse made you feel and how it has impacted your life. DO NOT SEND THE LETTER. Destroy it as you choose, or save it to read at a court hearing. This is simply a tool to help you release your feelings.
Try art therapy like an adult coloring book and begin to color, preferably using bright colors.
Exercise at least 30 minutes, eat a well-balanced diet and get at least 6-8 hours of sleep each day.
Rearrange the furniture in your home to create a fresh, new look and if possible, replace items that trigger your feelings related to the abuse.
Use aromatherapy for stress relief. Eucalyptus is good for pulmonary health and stress relief.
Remember that you are beautiful and you are more than enough!
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